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Be still

Within you there is a stillness and a sanctuary to which you can retreat at any time and be yourself. – Hermann Hesse You deserve to be happy. You are good. You are enough. Breathe deeply and remind yourself of this often. #personalliberation #dailysurvival #freeingyourselffromdoubt #meditation #freeingyourselffromfear

Write down your fitness goals

Maybe you want to manage your diabetes, lose weight or get blood pressure under control. Whatever it is, write down what you plan to do as well as when and why you are doing it. In this way you will be tying your goal to your actions. Making a specific plan is much like entering into a contract with yourself. For example, putting 30 minutes of jogging on your calendar for 6:00am on Sunday, Tuesday and Thursday (action) is a commitment you are less likely to break than if you vaguely promise to exercise more. Knowing why (goal = reduce blood pressure) you are jogging can make the how (lace up three times a week after work) a little easier.

Saving is self care

Especially when you are worried that things are falling apart you may be likely to pray for a miracle or bury your head in the sand. That may work for ostriches, but it probably won’t work for you. The best way to figure out how to fix a financial jam is to face it. Be willing to get a clear picture of where you are and where you want to go. If that prospect seems overwhelming, don’t panic. You don’t have to do everything right away. Choose one manageable task each month until you feel you have a good grasp of your financial situation. Two good places to start making changes are with daily spending and emotional spending. Daily Spending – how much money do you typically spend on miscellaneou

Saving is self care

Forty-seven percent of Americans “can’t pay for an unexpected $400 expense through savings or credit cards, without selling something or borrowing money.” – Hunter Schwarz on June 8 in a Washington Post article Don’t worry if you’re in that number. Just start where you are. Saving is particularly important for women for several reasons. Women are often concentrated in lower paying jobs, which means lower overall lifetime earnings. Also, women frequently live longer than men and can be financially vulnerable in cases of separation or death. That is especially true when children are involved. Ultimately, having money in the bank contributes to a feeling of security and peace of mind. Here are

Start a garden project

Not able or willing to start a garden project and you want fresh veggies at home? If this is a goal switch your focus from what you can’t do to what you can. For example maybe you can: Grow microgreens- these nutrient dense greens grow easily in a shallow container. Place in a sunny window and you will have a healthy addition to your salads and meals in a week or two. Join a food co-op. Check your neighborhood for weekly farmer’s markets Barter for veggies with a neighbor that has planted a garden Start with some easy to grow lettuce like arugula – it grows quickly with just a small investment of time and money. Consider planting a shared container or roof top garden at work, at your communi

Go for it!

And the day came when the risk to remain tight in the bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom. – Anais Nin What is it that you feel led to do? What is stopping you? What do you need to get around your obstacle? Where can you get help when you need it? What keeps you from going for it today? What would happen if you decided to just go for it?

Eating with self care

Not quite ready to overhaul your diet? It is okay to start where you are. One easy way is to add instead of subtract from your diet. Look for ways to include a serving of fruits or vegetables with all meals and snacks. For example, have a small salad before the burger, add some broccoli or zucchini to your eggs, or enjoy an apple before the chips. You will create a win-win by eating more of the foods that nourish you and less of those that don’t really do a body good….all without feeling deprived. #dailysurvival #selflove #selfcare #startwhereyouare

Just Breathe

Each time you wash your hands today, pause for a moment. Slow down and breathe deeply, allowing your belly to fully expand as you inhale. Exhale slowly and sigh out loud as the breath moves out of your body. Remember to sigh. Sighing can help you regulate disrupted breathing patterns and lead to feelings of calm. Breathe deeply throughout the day and remind yourself that you are okay.

You don’t have to earn the right to self care

Acts of self care don’t have to be earned – you always deserve them. You can show yourself some love even if the house isn’t clean or you don’t have a house. You can be kind to yourself when the kids aren’t on the honor roll, you didn’t get the promotion or your GED. It is alright to take time for yourself when your money isn’t right, you haven’t lost the weight and even when you feel like a complete failure. No matter what is happening in your life it is okay to cherish you. The goal of revolutionary self care is to add to your physical, emotional, spiritual, mental and even your financial well-being. You don’t have to wait until everything in your life is perfect. You can always practice r

Some of us did not die

The title of June Jordan’s essay collection – Some of us did not die – can sum up the miracle that is our daily survival. We continue to live in spite of a deeply embedded cultural hostility that threatens our emotional, mental and physical well-being. Still, though we did not die, many of us are sick. Women, and particularly women of color, must commit to self-care as a strategy of defense against systemic forces designed to undermine our sense of self and, ultimately, to destroy us. We cannot effectively resist our individual and collective oppression when we are physically, spiritually and emotionally spent. It is not always enough to not die. We deserve more. If we give up, stop trying,

You can trust yourself to keep the promises you make to yourself

Starting where I am is good enough and much kinder to my sense of self than never starting at all. Getting started with exercise – The Centers for Disease Control advises adults to exercise at least 150 minutes at a moderate pace each week. Don’t let that number overwhelm you. Start where you are: If you have a minute or two, swing a kettlebell,  jump rope or dance to your favorite song. If you have 5 or 10 minutes, take a brisk walk, do jumping jacks or lunges. If you have a pedometer, challenge yourself to take more steps each day. If you don’t have 30 minutes all at once, exercise in 10 or 15 minute increments. You don’t have to start perfectly, you just have to start. That’s how you buil

Job One

Regardless of your occupation the most important work you will ever do is on yourself. What skills, resources and support will you need for your revolutionary self-care practice? #personalliberation #selfcare

The truth doesn’t always set you free

Often, claiming to be direct or “telling it like it is” is really just an excuse for using language as a weapon. Think carefully about your intent in “telling the truth.” What are you trying to accomplish by offering feedback at this time and in this way? Will your words get you closer to or further away from that place? Think too about how the words you choose will impact the listener’s sense of self as well as your personal integrity and your relationship in the long term.

Loving the woman I am… …and nurturing the woman I am becoming

You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.      Buddha What I love about me – make a list of your top ten.

Make time for the things that nurture you

There are 168 hours in a week. If you spend 44 hours working and 54 hours sleeping, there are 70 hours left over. That’s a lot of time. – Laura Vanderkam What would it mean to claim some of that time for activities that nurture, propel and restore you? You can decide how you want to use your time. You can decide to make self-care a priority 3 or 4 hours out of 70. Why not give it a try?

Forgiving your mother

Mothers are just people. We don’t wear capes or walk on water. We make mistakes. We are human beings that have good days and bad ones. Sometimes we get things right and sometimes we get them really, really wrong. Like other people, mothers struggle with insecurity, the burden of mistakes, unrealized dreams and wounds related to childhood trauma. The job of adult children is to recognize that the idea of mothers as superhuman is a myth. Once we recognize that we are dealing with people who have the same challenges and shortcomings we all do, it can be easier to understand that mothers usually fall short not because they don’t love us enough, but because their challenges can make it hard for t

Say yes to yourself

If I had a dollar for every time I heard a woman say, “I’m a giving person. I would give my last dollar or the shirt off my back if someone asked me to,” I would be rich. When I hear that, or anything similar, I often respond, “if you put yourself last others will follow your example.” That is true with most things, including money. Completely ignoring your needs is rarely, if ever, noble or wise. For many of us money woes, including high debt and low savings, are often a result of constantly putting self last – ignoring our own needs. Now here many people might say sure, I have a hard time saying no to others but I usually say yes to myself, too. But is that really what is happening? While

My mind is on my money

Understanding your money habits is a good way to start facing money problems and making goals that support your financial health. If that prospect seems overwhelming, don’t panic. You don’t have to do everything right away. Choose one manageable task each month until you feel you have a good grasp on your financial situation. Maybe this month you can start a spending diary (where does your money go? write down every dollar you spend for at least one week), consolidate or defer student loan debt (while you are on the phone, ask about income based repayment plans) or save something (no amount is too small) via automatic debit.

Move Away from Diabetes Risk

Your BMI or body mass index is a way to measure your body fat based on your height and weight. Health professionals advise that a BMI between 18.5 and 24.9 is ideal. A BMI of 25 to 29.9 is considered overweight, while anything over 30 is obese. You can reduce your BMI (and risk of chronic illness, such as diabetes) by exercising regularly and embracing an active lifestyle. Start simply – just move more all day. No need to join the gym right away or invest in fancy fitness clothes. Take a walk after work. Dance after dinner or wear a pedometer and challenge yourself to get in as many steps as you can everyday. #fitnesstips #reducebmi

Let it Begin With Me

If you always put yourself last, chances are that many of the people around you will follow your example. It is possible to take care of self without being selfish. Is there any area in your life where you can occasionally practice putting yourself first? Write about why, where and how you will make it happen. If you cannot think of any place in your life where you can at least occasionally be the priority, what needs to happen so you can? What you will do to create these changes? #selfcarejournalexercise #selfcareexercise

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